Not sure if it is a part of being a woman, the youngest child, or what it is; but I am about as sensitive as they come. Words have an ability to cut me like knife and I hold onto them for years to come; blessed and burdened by the memory of an elephant.
We would all be a lot better off if we were positive with one another instead of knocking each other down. I know it is the elementary school cliche, but adults easily forget, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Do people really walk away feeling better about themselves after they have cut down someone else for who they are, what they believe, what they look like, etc...I am far from perfect, and when I do falter and fall into that trap, my guilty conscience plagues me, until I feel I can mend what I have hurt.
With that being said, I have definitely built up a tougher skin with age, but it is far from being an impenetrable armor. It is said that for every negative word spoken to a person, nine positive words are needed to counteract (Learned that in an Ed class years ago, and try to apply it to every aspect of life).
Remember that as you walk this earth, be one of the nine positive words in someones day, make them smile, build them up...people will always remember the way you made them feel, long after you are gone.
For the sensitive souls, here is a friends quote, that she swears she lives by, and it has made all the difference: “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” -Dr. Seuss
"Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far"
“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
-Christopher Robin to Pooh
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
"People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel."
Take Me As I Am
The radiator says 95
But I ain't felt a drop of heat all night
here in this motel, there's no telling me nothing
I come here five nights a week
To clean the toilets and changes the sheets
My name's Maggie Durant, baby ain't that something
If you want it
Come and get it
If you want it, come and get it but understand
You take me as I am
I know these corners, I know these streets
The curb-side Prophet there yelling at me
He can save my soul for a drink and a dollar
Yeah, he's yelling about my tattoos
But we all live with the scars we choose
They might hurt like hell, but they all make us stronger
I'm slow to trust but I'm quick to love
I push too hard and I give too much
I ain't saying I'm perfect, but I promise I'm worth it
Now I'm standing here in front of you
Tell me boy, what are you gonna do?
'Cause my name's Maggie Durant, I said, ain't that something
(Photo: Profile shot overlooking The Bay...symbolizing knowing when to speak, when to listen, and when to simply be...)